Empty Nest

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Empty Nest

Post by number 9 » Sun Apr 07, 2019 12:11 am

My youngest daughter just moved to Georgia, so it’s just me and the cat now. Just curious how others have experienced the same thing with a child leaving home. I’m a bit sad, but I know it’s just another chapter in life.

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Re: Empty Nest

Post by Bluemike » Sun Apr 07, 2019 12:07 pm

Hi 9, totally relate to how you are feeling right now, last Thursday marked 5 years that I have lived in this house by myself. My circumstances are different from yours in as much as I went through a marriage breakdown which resulted in us going our seperate ways with my then Eleven years old daughter going with her mum, that was as tough as it gets, suddenly not living with her through her early teenage years etc, it came hot on the heels of my son Thomas (AylesburyBlue) leaving home to go to Uni etc and find his way in the world which I so wanted him to do but being my best friend as well as my son I found it tough tbh.

So in the space of a year or two it went from a family home to just me, that really does take some adjusting, initially there was times of feeling lost and a bit hollow, feeling down and sorry for yourself, gradually you start to realise only you can make it work, I am blessed that I have some fab friends who helped no end, going out and not just wallowing around at home was key for me.

We do a full circle because this situation brought about me deciding football was my escape and while I'd always loved it I took it to another level of going away every game too, I've always felt it is as much a social thing for me as it is the football itself, so that's what I did and it helped me through tough tough times.

So in short you will probably feel totally lost for a time bud but its how you address it that matters, for me the freedom to go out with whoever I want when I want is great, fun without the ties lol, your situation is different but the initial feelings will be the same I expect. I'm sure you'll be fine after the initial period.

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Re: Empty Nest

Post by marko69 » Mon Apr 08, 2019 8:55 am

Trust me, 9....... time is the healer. It gets better. And potentially hearing that your daughter is having a great time in Georgia will make things better too.

My youngest son, (and also my best pal) ...., has just returned from a two year stint in Asia / Australia....., but the day he left?? My God. Empty Nest was an understatement. But it got better and it got better quickly because I knew he was having a great time.

Chin up, buddy.

And Mike....... glad you’ve come through the marital stuff. Been through it myself 20 years ago and it wasn’t great. Again, in that scenario, time was the healer.

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Re: Empty Nest

Post by Frosty » Mon Apr 08, 2019 12:12 pm

I wish mine would p*ss off sometimes, but I guess this is not helping the convo fella :wink:

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Re: Empty Nest

Post by Andym » Mon Apr 08, 2019 1:03 pm

My youngest moved out about 3 months ago. Not far enough unfortunately. He's just come in ranting about a customer who won't pay him. Make the most of the space, the peace and enjoy having time to yourself.

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Re: Empty Nest

Post by Ohiotractorboy » Fri May 31, 2019 4:12 pm

I have one entering senior year, and one entering sophomore year, so oldest is in college next summer and other in three. After having them and school occupy so much of our lives the past decade-plus, the Mrs and I will have to see if we still like each other, then I think travel is in the cards.

I also believe teenage years are God's way of letting you not miss them :astroll:

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Re: Empty Nest

Post by number 9 » Fri May 31, 2019 10:32 pm

Yep, the terrible twos and the torturous teens!

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